The date for my delivery is drawing near. I really hope that he will arrive on Adrian's birthday on the 11th Sept so that they can share the same birthday. It would also be a great birthday present for Daddy. But Adrian feels that as long as he arrives safely, he is happy. For a second time dad, let's hope he will be able to handle both Sabrina and Baby Boy. But he still has his studies to worry about. As he has 2 assignments due in September, he has already started his research on the topics he is working on (well after much nagging from me as usual). We both figure that we will not be able to really work on the assignments as it will definitely be a period of maddness handling a newborn and an active toddler. First and foremost, our gal might not be used to the idea of having an infant around and our time has to be spilt between spending time with her and spending time with infant. Secondly, infant will take some time to adjust be life outside of the womb. We will also need to adjust to having an infant around. Sleeping time, feeding time, changing time and many more things to come. Thirdly, with 2 kids around, I might not have the time to really sit down and edit his assignments like I always do. So it's a better bet to start working on his assignment earlier.
Till now we have not decided on which English name for him. We have narrowed it down to either Sebastian or Sullivan. Adrian likes the name Sullivan and had it written down in the list of names that we had shortlisted. To me when I think of Sullivan, I will think of the character in Monster Inc - The sweet monster who went all way out to help the little girl to go back to her room. While Sebastian is more like the lobster in Little Mermaid- The one who always think the worst of things but in the end will say otherwise when things turn out well. Haiz...Still a few more weeks to think about it.
My parents and my aunt will be coming to Australia to help with my confinement. Actually, we would have preferred to have just my aunt here as she knows how to handle babies, kids and can cook confinement food. My mum is of no use as she cannot handle babies, kids and knows nuts about confinement. Had it not been my father, I would have say no to all these. From the very beginning, our plans was to send Sabrina to a nearby childcare centre one month before I am due (ard Aug) to around October or November. With her out of sight, I will be able to handle the baby myself while she's in school. It's good also as she will get to mingle with kids her age and learn about social skills. I can rest as and when Baby is asleep. Adrian will then pick Sabrina up after his work and when they are back, I will then spend time with Sabrina so that she will not feel neglected while Adrian will tend to the baby.
We are very positive that it will work out as during my first confinement for Sabrina I was basically the main caregiver for her. My mil will just come over and bathe Sabrina and wash her clothes and off she goes to tend to her precious grandson. She would only be at my place for around at most an hour on normal days and only half an hour on Fridays as her grandson will be back from school early. She would have my lunch and dinner prepared at her place and she will just bring it over when she comes. So basically it's just a nice term for her to use to say "ya I did confinement for my dil." But in actually fact she did not help much at all. I even have to wash my own clothes, Adrian clothes and hang out the clothes and all. And they can keep saying that I must rest cuz confinement month is very important. How can I really rest when I still have to handle household chores. And on top of that she does not know how to carry an infant. You should have seen her bathing Sabrina. Basically she just put her into the water and out she comes and of course my gal will be screaming out loud as she loves water.
So immediately after the 30th day of my confinement, I bathed Sabrina on my own. When my mil came over, I just told her Sabrina had already showered and she is sleeping now. She was like "who shower for her?" I told her I was the one and she was like "you kow how to do it meh?" I just shoot her back and say " Don't know also have to try." She was just stunned for words. So from that day onwards she never carry Sabrina for her shower as I would already have done that. And she was the one to insist that I have to do confinement for 40 days instead of the normal 30 days. So she continue to cook for me so called confinement food but after 30 days she can tell me that she don't know what to cook for me and fried egg for me instead. Might as well don't cook at all. So after these 40 days, she never did into my house. ANd when did she come over finally? She came when I report for work the very first day after 4 months when Adrian was at home to look after Sabrina as he was doing freelance from home. I was really mad. I told Adrian off and was really irritated that she did these small actions. Appering at my place when I was not around. For the past 4 months she has never bothered to come over to see my gal and when we do bring Sabrina over, she will purposely comment in front of her friends that "aiyo so long never see you liao." I really feel like telling her that " you just live in the opposite block. You can always walk over if you want." Moreover it's sheltered from her block to ours. It's just so irritating. Anyway she was not supposed to help with my confinement. We had already indicated that we want her elder sister to help(Adrian's eldest aunt). She purposely refused to tell her and in the end she so called did my confinement. Real nonsense. So I already told Adrian for our 2nd kid I would never ever ask his mum. I rather spend money hiring a confinement lady who really helps with everything and since we hire her, we can indicate what we need her to do within her means of course.
My dad was the one who kept persuading us to have someone come over to Australia to help me out. It was also at the same time that my aunt offer to come to help. Our concern was that she has her own family as well and to stay away from her family for a month would have been too much of a hassle. But my aunt has always been on the move, going to KL for a week or JB for another week and some other places in Malaysia for various meeting snad workshops. Her six kids are all school going children and spent most of their time in school. She feels that she is free to go anyway she wants and her husband is very supportive of everything that she does. So in the end, we said okay and she is coming over on the 5th Sept as she is worried that I might give birth earlier with my previous record a nearly 3 weeks early arrival of Sabrina. My parents will only come over on the 13th Sept as they need to attend my brother's POP on the 10th Sept. Let's hope everything falls into place.
Updated Aust Time 10.15am
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